I can understand the general thinking behind this. With that said, first, I would hope the “boys don’t cry” message is changing. My adult kids certainly didn’t grow up with the message. Second, I would hope that part of becoming a mature man would be to learn this insight and not expect a woman to solve their problem or work through their feelings. It’s not a partner’s job to talk someone out of being angry. Or interpret their feelings. Tears from a woman (unless they’re being manipulative) don’t cause harm. Lashing out at someone in anger does.
I can understand the general thinking behind this. With that said, first, I would hope the “boys don’t cry” message is changing. My adult kids certainly didn’t grow up with the message. Second, I would hope that part of becoming a mature man would be to learn this insight and not expect a woman to solve their problem or work through their feelings. It’s not a partner’s job to talk someone out of being angry. Or interpret their feelings. Tears from a woman (unless they’re being manipulative) don’t cause harm. Lashing out at someone in anger does.
Really good points. Thank you