Stop Trying to Attract a Life Your Nervous System Doesn’t Believe In
Real manifestation starts where your subconscious stops lying
I had a very emotionally volatile mother growing up. She wasn’t abusive—actually, she was loving and deeply caring. But she was also overwhelmed, struggling. I’d walk into the room one minute and everything felt warm, playful, safe. The next minute, she’d be sobbing in her room or angry over something invisible to me.
That kind of inconsistency during childhood doesn’t leave a note on the fridge. It writes itself into your nervous system.
And for me? It wrote a message that female emotions weren’t trustworthy—and that I had to be the good boy. The savior. The emotional fixer.
I spent decades unconsciously choosing emotionally volatile women, playing the role of the rescuer, and abandoning my own needs. I couldn’t see the pattern. Not with logic. Not with therapy. Not until I developed a method to reach my subconscious—what we now teach at Next Level Human.
The Big Idea
You cannot manifest a new life with an old identity.
And yet that’s exactly what 99% of people try to do. They make vision boards, say affirmations, and journal their intentions… all while dragging around subconscious stories that directly contradict what they want.
Manifestation isn’t blocked by lack of belief. It’s blocked by unresolved identity.
The Breakdown
We teach a 3-step process of manifestation: Rewrite, Rewire, Retrain. Most people only ever try the last step.
1. REWRITE: The Subconscious Narrative Must Change First
You can’t manifest while your subconscious is still married to your past. This is the step everyone skips.
How can someone who believes money is evil attract wealth?
How can someone who believes women are emotionally unstable—or men are inherently untrustworthy—build a healthy relationship?
How can someone who links food with love and comfort stop bingeing when they feel lonely?
You can’t.
The subconscious mind doesn’t care about what you want. It only cares about what you believe to be true. And your beliefs come from the emotional residue of your past. At Next Level Human, we call this MUD: Misguided Unconscious Decisions. These aren’t necessarily traumas. They’re deeper than that. They're decisions your subconscious made when you didn’t have the maturity, tools, or safety to process what was happening.
And you’ve been living by them ever since.
2. REWIRE: Emotional Holding Patterns Must Be Uprooted
Emotion is the language of the subconscious. Every belief has a matching emotional signature.
Fear, control, resistance, frustration, anxiety, insecurity, depression… these are not isolated moods. They are cues—tethers to old stories.
And you cannot create new outcomes with old emotional anchors. That’s why rewiring matters.
We teach clients to practice elevated emotional states like trust, openness, excitement, gratitude, vitality, and joy—on command.
This isn't spiritual bypassing. It’s nervous system retraining.
Through guided meditations, breathwork, and daily practice, you begin to generate these emotions while simultaneously visualizing your new reality. This is where neuroscience meets magic:
Your brain’s salience network starts paying attention to anything that matches your vision. Your attention network becomes biased toward opportunity. Your default mode network starts loosening its grip on the old story. And your executive control network gets busy making logical plans.
It’s not law of attraction—it’s law of recognition.
Example: Say you want a red BMW. You visualize it while feeling elevated joy, gratitude, and possibility. Suddenly, you start seeing red BMWs everywhere. You didn’t summon them—you just trained your brain to notice what was already there.
That’s the magic of rewiring.
3. RETRAIN: Right Action in Alignment with Reality
Now comes the part most people are too quick to jump to: action.
Except they take the wrong action. Because they skipped the inner work. And action without alignment is just busywork.
Here’s the truth: You can’t just “decide” to become a pop star if you can’t sing. You can’t manifest flying by jumping off a cliff.
Manifestation doesn’t ignore gravity—it works with reality.
That’s why the third step is retraining—not forcing. You act in accordance with your authentic potential. What we call your Essentia—your unique combination of gifts, pain, personality, and life story.
Let me give you a real-world example.
I once coached a woman in Los Angeles who dreamed of being a superstar singer. She worked tirelessly. Hustled for gigs. Took voice lessons. But nothing clicked.
She didn’t have the voice. She knew it deep down.
Through the manifestation process, she realized: she wasn’t meant to be on stage—she was meant to coach others to get there. She was brilliant at training voices. She had lived the struggle. And her Essentia wasn’t being a star. It was creating them.
Her path didn’t die. It evolved.
And that’s what true manifestation does. It dismantles the fantasy so you can step into the truth.
Practical Takeaway
Manifestation requires:
REWRITE: Becoming conscious of the stories that shaped you and working to own, edit and integrate them.
REWIRE: Training your nervous system to feel the feelings of your desired future now, so your brain starts working for your desires instead of against them.
RETRAIN: Taking real-world action that is authentic to your strengths, values, and Essentia—not your ego or someone else’s dream.
It’s not easy. But it’s real. And it works.
Closing Thought
The moment you begin this process, your old identity begins to collapse.
Old timelines dissolve. People fall away. Opportunities shift.
It may feel like everything is falling apart. But in truth, your Essentia is reconfiguring your life around who you were always becoming.
You’re not remembering a past self.
You’re becoming a new one.
Manifestation is not recall—it’s rebirth.
PS Call-to-Action
PS: If you’re tired of trying to manifest the life you want but keep repeating the same patterns, it’s time to break the cycle. Join my Next Level Human coaching program to rewrite your story, rewire your emotions, and retrain your actions—so you can finally become who you were meant to be. Spots are limited—don’t wait.